Not all couples try to keep their financial settlements amicable. Just the sane ones.
Even though you aren’t happy with each other, you’ll end up with better results – financially and emotionally – if you do everything you can to keep your settlement negotiations amicable.
That means you need to try to:
acknowledge that your partner’s view are not the same as yours;
recognise that you probably can’t have things exactly the way you want; and
show you’re willing to settle for a “reasonable” result that’s not harsh on either of you.
That's easier said than done...
Many people want to behave and communicate this way, but very often it’s hard to keep calm.
That’s why it’s smart to use an experienced neutral party who can help the two of you get to a result with as little stress as possible.
Using our neutral services will help you keep the process as amicable as possible... and still get a "deal" done.
Whether you are poles apart, or you already have a rough agreement on a “deal”, we can help you get to a finalised, sensible outcome – quickly and inexpensively.
We work for and communicate with both of you.
We "shuttle" back and forth between you multiple times across hours or a few days. (Lawyers send aggressive letters once every few weeks.)
We carry your requests and viewpoints to your former partner in a diplomatic and sensitive way.
We guide the two of you to a sensible and realistic deal that can be done now, and not one that’s unfair on one of you.
We help smooth out any remaining “niggles”, and guide you into the formalities to make it legally binding.
We keep you focused on the big picture.
Lawyers simply can’t keep things amicable, because the legal system itself is adversarial.
Adversarial behaviour simply drives up costs - chewing up 10% to 40% of average household wealth by the time you get to a judgment. It takes 1 to 3 years to get a result and simply destroys any chance of maintaining any amicable relationship.
So not only does the legal system produces worse financial outcomes, it severely damages your quality of life (and your kids' quality of life, too).
If you want to keep things amicable, choose the least stressful, non-adversarial path: a neutral mediator.
So, yes, amicable settlements are possible
We invite you to work with us to make your quality of life over the next 2-3 years many times better than it will be if you instead battle each other through the legal system.
Make contact with us to learn about our range of low-stress services will help preserve civility and achieve sensible outcomes for both of you.
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Divorce Partners helps separating people reach sensible financial settlements